“The best years of your life are the ones in which you decide your problems are your own. You do not blame them on your mother, the ecology, or the president. You realize that you control your own destiny.” – Albert Ellis

The “Blame Game” goes right back to the beginning.

God told Adam and Eve when He placed them in the Garden that they could have it all, except they were not to eat the fruit of the tree in the middle of the Garden. However, they ate the fruit of that tree and in the evening, as God walked in the Garden, He called for Adam and Adam responded, “Over here, Lord.” Then God asked the question, “Adam, did you eat the fruit of the tree in the middle of the Garden?” God already knew the answer but He wanted Adam to respond. Adam, however, did the “manly thing” and replied, “Lord, let me tell you about that woman you gave me!” and that’s where the ball started its long, unending roll. God then asked Eve if she had eaten the fruit, and Eve passed the ball along and said, “Lord, let me tell you about that snake!” And, of course, the snake didn’t have a leg to stand on!

Who do you blame when the horse you have backed gets beaten?

  • The jockey?
  • The trainer?
  • Dave in the pub?
  • The weather?
  • The full moon?

Anyone and anything but yourself? Is it their fault you backed that horse?

I gave up my blame list a long time ago, unfortunately a few other people found it!

If you are confident enough with your selection for a particular race, confident enough to invest hard earned cash on its chances, then the responsibility lies with you and only you.

Taking responsibility for your own choices is essential in all aspects of life not just when deciding which horse to back. Whether it is a small decision like selecting a brand of tea bags or a significant one like choosing a career path, it is crucial to be accountable for the choices that we make. Our choices are a reflection of our character, and we should always make sure that we choose wisely and act with integrity.

Taking responsibility for our decisions is an important part of personal growth and development. It allows us to acknowledge our mistakes, learn from them, and move forward with greater wisdom and insight. When we take ownership of our actions, we begin to see ourselves as active agents in our own lives, rather than passive victims of circumstance.

One of the key benefits of taking responsibility for our decisions is that it helps us to learn from our mistakes. By acknowledging where we went wrong and what we could have done differently, we can gain valuable insight into our own thought processes, behaviours, and attitudes. This insight can then be used to make better decisions in the future, and to avoid repeating the same mistakes over and over again.

Additionally, taking responsibility for our decisions helps us to build our confidence and self-esteem. When we admit our mistakes and take ownership of them, we are demonstrating a level of maturity and accountability that can be empowering. This can help us to feel better about ourselves and our ability to handle difficult situations, which can in turn lead to greater success and satisfaction in other areas of our lives.

Finally, taking responsibility for our decisions can help us to develop a growth mindset. Instead of viewing mistakes as failures or setbacks, we can see them as opportunities to learn and grow. This can foster a sense of curiosity and openness to new experiences and ideas, which can lead to continued personal and professional development over time. Overall, taking responsibility for our decisions is a key component of personal growth and development, and can have a positive impact on all areas of our lives.

When we take ownership of our actions, we are forced to confront our own limitations, biases, and blind spots. This can be a humbling experience, but it can also be a transformative one. By recognizing our own flaws and weaknesses, we can begin to work on them and improve ourselves in meaningful ways.

Of course, taking responsibility for our decisions is not always easy. It requires a willingness to be honest with ourselves, even when it is uncomfortable or painful. It also requires a certain level of humility and self-awareness, as well as a willingness to learn from others and seek out feedback and advice.

In the end, however, the benefits of taking responsibility for our decisions far outweigh the costs. By learning from our mistakes, growing as individuals, and becoming more aware of our own strengths and weaknesses, we can live more fulfilling, meaningful lives and make a positive impact on the world around us.

Who do I blame when a horse I have backed gets beaten?

Well, that depends, if I have done the work and am certain that horse is the right one for the race, I do not blame anyone. I may on occasion revisit the race and see if I would still come to the same conclusion but as for blame in this case it is pointless. After all horses are not machines and they do not always run to their merits for any number of reasons.

However, If I have not done any work, and simply backed a horse on a whim, when this animal loses me money, quite simply the only person to blame is myself. This is where I slap myself across the face for breaking one of my golden rules. Then I put it behind me.

There is no room for finger pointing and blaming all and sundry in this game, it just wastes valuable time and energy that could be spent in a much more enjoyable or productive way.

Instead of looking for an object of blame do something else to clear your head,

  • Have a cup of tea
  • Mow the lawn
  • Talk to your partner or the kids (that is them sprawled on your furniture manically scrolling though facebook, snapchat and a million other apps on their phones.)

No matter where you get your selections from you are under no obligation to back them all.

Do you find yourself always following the crowd and going with the popular choice, even if your instincts are telling you otherwise? Or do you take a step back and assess the situation before making a decision, understanding that you have the power to choose what is best for you? Being reactive means that you are easily influenced by others and may feel pressure to conform to their beliefs or actions. On the other hand, being proactive involves taking control of your own choices and not allowing outside factors to dictate your decisions. It’s important to be aware of these tendencies in order to make conscious and informed choices, especially when it comes to something like betting where there are potential risks involved. Ultimately, being proactive allows for greater autonomy and the ability to make decisions that align with your own values and beliefs.

Each one of us must recognise that it is not “his fault, her fault or their fault” – it is our responsibility alone.

As individuals, we often tend to shift the blame onto others when things go wrong. We point fingers at our colleagues, family members, friends, or even society as a whole. However, it is important to understand that we are all interconnected, and our actions and decisions have a ripple effect on those around us.

Therefore, it is crucial for each one of us to take ownership of our actions and decisions. We must recognise that the consequences of our actions can impact others, and it is our responsibility alone to ensure that we act in a way that aligns with our values and principles.

Blaming others not only deflects responsibility but also hinders our personal growth and development. When we take responsibility for our actions, we empower ourselves to learn from our mistakes and make positive changes in our lives.

It is only by recognising that we are all interconnected and taking responsibility for our own actions that we can work towards creating a better world for everyone. We must strive to be the change we wish to see in the world, and that starts with taking responsibility for our own lives.

Removing blame from your life will make it easier for you to keep your head in the game. The sooner you do this, the better.

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